Updated February 20, 2007
Tip #1 - Be Gentle with Us!
I hope you all think about this because if a lady has ever had to tell you to "take it easy," or "don't be so rough" or "please don't bite" or "not so hard please" or she's squeaked or squealed in pain then this applies to you, whether you meant to hurt her or not.
Hurting us does not make us want to do our best to give you great service - in fact it makes us want to get you the hell out of here so that you can't hurt us anymore. It does not take a lot of rubbing or pressure to hurt our delicate private areas. When in doubt use less pressure unless/until a lady says "oooh harder!" or something along those lines.
Little known fact to guys: it takes all of about 5 seconds for a lady's sensitive nipples to become VERY SORE when guys are pinching, pulling, twisting, yanking, twirling, and/or biting our poor little nipples. Usually when you tell a guy that he is being too rough, he says "oh, sorry" and usually goes right back to doing it or stops for about 30 seconds and starts doing it again. By the time I tell you that what you are doing hurts, it really HURTS! and I need you to stop doing it! I don't get paid enough to be hurt and if that is what you are after then please buy a blow-up doll instead!
Also, crushing my breasts into my chest so you can see how flat you can squash them HURTS! Please don't do it!
Another little known fact to guys: it can really hurt when you are rubbing our genitals when we are dry down there. I know you think that rubbing aggressively is going to get us wet faster but most of the time it really causes a lot of friction and pain. By the time we squirm in pain and try to move away from your hand, pull your hand away, put our hand on yours to stop you or tell you that you need to "take it easy" we have already taken more pain than we can handle. This also applies to sticking your dry finger(s) up our vagina when we are dry. It can really hurt. Next time try sucking on your finger before you start rubbing us down there or you try shoving your finger into us. Ask to use some lube or even better, start with a little DATY, that way there is lots of lubrication.
Try to think how painful these things would be if someone were doing them to you and hopefully next time you'll remember to be a little more gentle with the lady you are with.
Please, don't put your weight on our abdomen when you are lying on top of us, especially petite little ladies like myself. This not only makes it hard for us to breathe but it puts pressure on our internal organs and can be quite painful. By the time I tell you that you are crushing me and you need to move, I have already had more pain than I can handle.
When we can trust you not to hurt us, we can relax and focus more on doing the best job possible for you during a session instead of focusing on trying to keep ourselves safe and protect ourselves from being hurt.
For those guys that are constantly having bad sessions with the ladies, you might want to think about what the common denominator is in all of those sessions. That would be YOU. If you are constantly getting bad sessions perhaps you have extremely bad luck or perhaps it is something you are doing (you are too nervous and won't relax and you make us nervous, bad attitude, too rough, too aggressive, wanting things that aren't on the menu,) or not doing (ie: showering, bad breath.) Please think about it.
We want you to have a good session. If you have a good session then that usually means that we had a good session too! You aren't the only one that wants to have fun and enjoy yourselves! This can and should be very enjoyable for both people involved.
Now get out there, be gentle and you'll both have fun!
